Dear Intimacy,

What would you have me know today?

in addition to betty edward’s book, drawing in the right side of the brain, i’m reading carol dweck’s book called mindset. carol discusses fixed and growth mindsets and suggests a growth mindset can be learned. in fact, carol admitted to having a fixed mindset when she started her research, however, through her research learned how to adopt and develop a growth mindset. at times, i catch myself using a fixed mindset in certain situation. in other situations, however, i notice i’m using a growth mindset.

yesturday i was so excited about my foot and felt like i was making progress, and that my foot injury was all part of my process to run a 50km trail race this fall. moreover, my injury, would in the end, lead to different ways of doing things and thinking about sport (and life!). today, i went to the pool with a sore foot. and a bad attitude. i felt like i had taken a few steps backwards and with that slipped into a fixed mindset (i’ll never run again! i’ll have an injured foot forever!) maybe this too is all part of the process.

this morning, miles, margot and i did our morning drawing. i wanted to practice seeing negative spaces so drew margot’s toy shopping cart which had a lot of negative space. it’s tricky! it seems like i can get into “flow” and turn off my thinking brain quickly by concentrating on drawing one line at a time (and not become overwhelmed by drawing the entire shopping cart). part way through my drawing, i begin to focus on the entire shopping cart and become overwhelmed. maybe this is common among beginners and i need to keep practicing? i think so. when my photography mentor, jenna, gives me feedback, she often says to ‘keep going.’ i find myself saying the same feedback to miles and margot ‘you must have worked hard, keep going.”

my drawing of margot’s toy shopping cart

this is not a drawing of a shopping cart! miles didn’t want to draw. instead, miles crafted a prop for the play he’s writing: the mushroom for alice in wonderland.

copekot - or shopping car, by margot (age 5 1/2)

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